Sunday, October 28, 2007

my mum was doing up her guestlist and told me sis to call my uncle (dad's elder bro) for his address. the reason y we didn't haf his address was dat our family did not contact each other for more than a decade due to the $$ left behind by my late grandma.

it's a long story la... but to say it will be my two aunts (dad's elder sis) took side of my uncle and said my grandma did not leave much $$ behind when the truth was dat there was actually more than wat they said lor. coz both my uncle n dad counted the savings left behind by my grandma and my aunts were not present to witness it which they later lied to say they did witnessed!!! so the whole family fell apart 3:1. therefore we lost contacts with my uncle n two aunts, not forgetting cousins.

of coz we do met each other at weddings but each were treated as invisible. i remembered once i did not greeted my aunt and was accused of been rude coz i shd haf greeted her coz she was my elder.. ok.. lessons learnt! even when i see my cousins, we juz greeted n nod heads. sometimes i do wonder y the family feud between our parents generations muz continue on to the next generations which is us n of coz to our next generations??? some cousins were kind enough to greet my parents n some choose not to.

when my dad fell really ill during aug'05 n oni had months to live, he called my uncle n aunts hoping to see them when there was still a chance...well, oni my 2nd aunt came n visited my dad in CGH. actually my dad had already forgiven my aunts n uncle over the $$ matter which happened more than a decade ago. we also dun bear any grudges on my two aunts. even on his deathbed, my dad reminded my sis n i forgive n forget, not to bear any grudges on them.

in oct'05, my dad passed away, we informed every relatives (of coz incl. my uncle n aunts). we were not sure if my uncle will come to the wake. my dad's god-bro had said he'll hold the wake for my dad if my uncle does not come. but tis will sure send tougues wagging. so i supposed dats y my uncle came eventually n held the wake for my dad,

my elder aunt came crying to the wake all the way fm home and had to be supported by my cousins. i guess my elder aunt was sad that to tink she had not seen her youngest brother for more than a decade and the oni chance she got to see him next was at his wake. even at the wake, she could oni see my dad's pic as we had the coffin closed. my dad's face was bloated due to water retention and i'm sure he do not want his family n frens to see him tis way, juz to remember him as wat his is when he was alive. all my cousins came, except two (one was my uncle's son). i felt it was really dis-respectful of them!!!

ok.. back to the main topic on inviting my uncle to my wedding. my mum n i met my uncle's wife n said we wanted their address to send my wedding invites. she was reluctant to tok to us and told us to ask my uncle ourselves. fast forward to tis aftn, my sis called my uncle and nobody picked up the phone. my cousin called back later on upon seeing the missed call on their caller ID and said my uncle was not home and told my sis to call back later. well, my uncle called back instead. my sis told him we are inviting him to my wedding. guess wat he replied??? "we haf not contacted each other for more than a decade, so no need to invite me. we did not invited u to your cousin's wedding, so they is no need to invite us." WTF!!! sorry for the language... out of respect, we called u to invite u n now u tell us tis!! my sis replied him back "but we attended the other cousin's wedding", he juz interrupted n said "no need to invite me or your three cousins". end of conversation.

my poor sister felt really bad n cried juz nw coz she dun understand y my uncle muz tok like tis. my dad has already passed away for nearly 2 yrs (next sun's the anniversary) and he is still like bearing grudges!!! my mum was very angry and said if my two aunts also did not attend my wedding, it all bcoz of my uncle coz they are scared of him, everything also listen to him. my mum, sis n i haf decided not to greet my uncle and his family anymore.. the reason was not oni bcoz of the above-mentioned reply from him. but also due to their attitude towards my mum n sis last week when they met at a wake. my sis had greeted my uncle's wife n she loudly asked my sis 'zuo she men' or "wat" in english. com'on, my sis merely greeted her out of respect n tis is the reply she get!!!

i told my mum juz now.. next time when my uncle go n sell duck eggs, we'll juz attend the wake for one nite, pass the baijin n go home. no need to bother to send him off at his funeral.

i'm sure my other relatives n my dad's god-bro n god-sis will sure ask y we nv invite my uncle to my wedding, we'll juz tell the truth!! anyway, we dun lose any face coz it's not our fault. my uncle himself said dun invite him. we shd haf gotten dat phone conversation recorded down n play it for my other relatives to hear.

he'll get his retribtion for accumulating so much bad karma. see how he can face my late grandma, grand-dad n ancestors later on.